By virtue of being from a Defense family I have travelled a lot and made a lot of friend but what hurts is that i have also lost a lot of those friends along the way. Going through old albums or school chronicles reminds me of the great times and friendships I had with some of those and how they are now lost in time.
Sometimes when I do happen to get in touch with them again (thanks to the orkuts of the world) it always isn’t the feeling that I had expected would take over me. Don’t get me wrong but we grow up into different individuals in different surroundings and circumstances; even though i enjoy remembering the old times i really am unable to relate with some of them now. In fact, it would be easier talking to complete strangers than some old friends because you know you have to start fresh. Whereas with old friends, it isn't that easy.
It is like this, most of us have had some teenage crush or love (for the serious ones..he he) and do remember how much we used to like them but when face to face with them again we hardly feel the same. Let alone feeling the same we find it unbelievable that we liked them at some point in our lives. It is just that we tend to grow into completely different individuals but had we stayed together our growing up would have affected each others’ and we may have been different than what we are today. In which case, we would still like them and be their friends (more importantly be able to relate to them)..hmmm!
This brings me back to the old lost and found friends- I have met a few of them till date. While the idea of catching up with some evoked great enthusiasm and excitement it didn’t quite excite me as much when it came to others. Infact, I don’t even know at times what to talk to some of them. I guess, in some cases its best to not find your lost friends as their last memories are the wonderful ones which you always will cherish.
Sometimes when I do happen to get in touch with them again (thanks to the orkuts of the world) it always isn’t the feeling that I had expected would take over me. Don’t get me wrong but we grow up into different individuals in different surroundings and circumstances; even though i enjoy remembering the old times i really am unable to relate with some of them now. In fact, it would be easier talking to complete strangers than some old friends because you know you have to start fresh. Whereas with old friends, it isn't that easy.
It is like this, most of us have had some teenage crush or love (for the serious ones..he he) and do remember how much we used to like them but when face to face with them again we hardly feel the same. Let alone feeling the same we find it unbelievable that we liked them at some point in our lives. It is just that we tend to grow into completely different individuals but had we stayed together our growing up would have affected each others’ and we may have been different than what we are today. In which case, we would still like them and be their friends (more importantly be able to relate to them)..hmmm!
This brings me back to the old lost and found friends- I have met a few of them till date. While the idea of catching up with some evoked great enthusiasm and excitement it didn’t quite excite me as much when it came to others. Infact, I don’t even know at times what to talk to some of them. I guess, in some cases its best to not find your lost friends as their last memories are the wonderful ones which you always will cherish.
